This is close to my heart and I believe there are several angles we can look at this. Practically there are several potential reasons why men may struggle to ask for help when they are struggling emotionally and mentally:
Stereotypes and expectations:
Many men are socialized to believe that they should be strong and self-sufficient and that asking for help is a sign of weakness. This can make it difficult for men to admit when they are struggling and to seek help.
Some men may have difficulty expressing their emotions or may feel uncomfortable discussing their feelings. This can make it difficult for them to talk about their struggles and ask for help.
Lack of role models:
Men may not have seen other men in their lives asking for help and may not know how to go about seeking it.
Fear of judgment:
Men may be afraid of being judged or misunderstood if they admit to struggling emotionally and mentally. They may worry about being seen as less masculine or competent.
Men may not know where to go for help or may not have access to the resources they need to get support.
More relevant to me was, who can I ask? Sure psychiatrists and councillors could help but access to them is very hard on a low-income and the UK NHS won’t help.
Free options are the people around you but I can’t see a single person that either has their shit together enough for me to want their help or have the time to actually sit and talk.
Actually, I got help and changed my life through self-education – meaning reading books and youtube.
It’s important to recognize that everyone can experience emotional and mental health challenges and that it’s okay to ask for help. Seeking support can be a sign of strength and resilience, and can lead to improved well-being and quality of life.
Also, these challenges can range from mild motivation issues to thoughts of suicide, so as a start if you need help contact me and let’s see if I can help.
If you are considering suicide then please get mediate help through the samaritans.